Questions for Online Dating – 3 Tips To Follow For Huge Success on Online Dating Sites
Online Dating Advice: Questions for Online Dating
So you have Questions for Online Dating When you respond to an ad, posted by a woman, you have to know that you are not the only one. It’s more likely that you are the 35th person that is writing to her.
Here’s a suggestion. I want you to do this right now if you are a guy, go online and register yourself at match.com section as a woman (about 23 y/o, nice and slim).
Be sure that you use an e-mail that is not important for you – getting a new free one for the purpose is a good idea.
This is going to be a simple experiment. After a couple of days you’ll find out two things:
-you get a lot of attention being a woman in the online dating world
-the approximate number of people you (as a guy) are competing with.
Something more important – you’ll get the idea about what are the other guys writing about. This is valuable information.
Don’t worry about it if you get 40 emails the first day from all sorts of guys willing to go on a date with you.
This will tell you how to make women think you are different than the rest of them.
Questions for Online Dating: Don’t Make This Mistake
Online Dating Tip 1
The usual mistake
Well, let’s suppose you did the experiment that I suggested. I bet you’ll find a couple dozens of variations of the following:
Hi!
My name is Bob.
I’m (insert age).
I live in (insert city).
I’m (insert physical features).
I work at a (insert employer or job)
I like doing (your main 3 interests).
We might give it a try if you’re interested
Bob
This sounds pathetic, doesnt it?
Bob is wasting his time.
Of course – he has his little to no chances.
If his job or hobby matches the woman’s ones, he’ll may get an answer. If also the woman is posting an ad for the first time, and Bob is the first one to answer, again he’ll may get a reply.
Pay attention to the word first. 1 is the loneliest number
Where is he making his big mistake?
Bob might be a cool guy, but he shows nothing of it.
What he is doing is a simple announcing his facts. His personality remains hidden. As I said, he could be very witty, emotional and educated – and a whole bunch of other features that women consider valuable.
But if all of that remains hidden behind these plain body/work/hobby facts, its quite easy for a woman to decide that none of the features she is looking for actually exists –
Bob is wasting his valuable online time. He needs to learn to make it about her….
This is where the magic happens
**hint Learn the art of texting for even more success
Questions for Online Dating: Make it About the Other Person
Online Dating Tip 2
So, what to do?
The answer is simple – you have to put some personality in your e-mail.
…and ask questions…. Focus on learning about her. Ask her what are her favourite things are and why?
Once you do this, you can be sure that you can leave an impression. If you manage to do this, your work is done.
Remember the features I was talking about being witty, emotional and educated. You have to convince the woman that you can think, have sense of humour and you are able to learn.
Make her laugh, make her think; if you don’t put her off with spelling mistakes, your chances to get a reply increase dramatically. It doesn’t matter if the woman is educated or not – she wants you to be. Let me say a few words about each one of these features
Be a psychologist!
Questions for Online Dating: Let it Shine
Online Dating Tip 3
When you e-mail a woman you have to show yourself as a psychologist.
Well, how are you supposed to do this? Simple – you have to make a small prediction that turns out to be true.
First you have to read the woman’s ad and gather all her valuable information that you can.
Try to understand what is the proper motivation for her to post an ad. It might be stated directly – if it is then it is useless for you to mention it.
If she does not say it clear, then go for it – she’ll be pleased to hear that someone understands her. One thing that you can always use is the fact that quite a lot of people write something similar to the ad that I showed you above.
You can predict that the woman is probably already tired of ads, telling about heights, weight and eye colour. Say that you wont bother her with useless facts. Promise to send her a picture instead in some of your following letters.
Of course – do it if she replies. If you manage to make such a working prediction, this will convince the woman that the space between your ears is not filled with air. You know, even if you are not quite right, she might reply to tell where you are wrong. This is also a base for conversation. Use it. Be witty!
Showing some sense of humour – well, something that is difficult to achieve sometimes. What I can say is JOKE WITH YOURSELF, NOT WITH HER! REMEMBER THAT! Don’t use any of the info that she gives as a material for jokes!
It might work, but it’s more likely that you will put her off. Try to get her point of view – if not, she may say “Who the hell is he to speak like that?” Don’t risk a bad first impression!
At the same time, you can always make a joke about the way you look. Use phrases like “It could be worse” or “I don’t break any mirrors” when talking about your appearance.
It’s a basic thing to show that you like yourself. If you don’t, well this is a little bit far from the topic of this article, but do an effort not to show it (and constantly work to change this).
Its a basic fact that you have first learn to like and love the person that you see in the mirror in order for others to like and love you. Back to humour – keep your lines that will make her laugh unexpected and short.
Online Dating Tip 3
Don’t tell long boring stories keep your wit cute and not too sacrcastic.
Its a good idea always to keep your ears opened for funny things, quotes, etc. Write them down the moment you hear them, or when they come to your mind.
Remember the more questions you ask the more she will open up to you. The one thing a woman wants is a Good Listener
Good Luck!
